Day: March 1, 2020


Understanding Pain and Bondage

In recent years, more people have been looking into ways of making their sex lives more interesting. Of necessity, this means reading or experimenting in areas once considered “taboo”. Today, we have largely become more open to the discussion of various subjects and practices. Within limits, of course.

One area which has gained a lot more curiosity, interest and experimentation is the practice of bondage and pain. This practice was once called S&M;, which stands for either “Sadism and Masochism” or “Slave and Master/Mistress”. Today, the term used has become BDSM, for “Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism or Slave, Master/Mistress”. While more people have been looking into this practice, it is still largely misunderstood.

Many images about this practice are false. Clothing is popular which indicate people practice BDSM, yet many who wear such clothing do not truly practice it. Images, sets and scenes in movies allude to various aspects of BDSM, yet are most commonly written and designed by people who know little or nothing of the subject. Simply put, you cannot tell if a person practices BDSM by the clothes they wear, what movies they watch, how their home is decorated, what religion they do or do not belong to or because they have tattoos or piercings.

One of the first things to understand about BDSM is that there are many different levels to the practice. Just stating one practices BDSM is actually very little information. It’s like someone saying they like spicy food. That doesn’t say if they like Mexican, Cajun, Italian, Moroccan or just how hot or mild they may like their food. Some may say they like spicy foods but draw the line at anything hotter than Taco Bell, while others like food so spicy it will strip the paint from your car!

To make things clear and understandable, some myths must be dealt with. Let’s take a look at some of these myths.

Myth: BDSM is all about one person having power over another.

Fact: The power dynamics in BDSM are complex. However, those dynamics tend to be more defined than the average “normal” relationship. …

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